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Dating Expert Reveals Why You Should Avoid Texting Early In A Relationship

Dating Expert Reveals Why You Should Avoid Texting Early In A Relationship

“Is two exclamation points too many? Maybe an emoji would be good? I should give this at least 30 minutes before I respond, I don’t want to seem too eager.”

If none of these thoughts came to your mind when you were texting the person you’re interested in, you’re doing it wrong.

It’s natural to want to try and keep in touch with a potential new partner, even if you only have a few words to do so. Right?

Well, according to dating expert Sabrina Zohar, that’s not the best approach at all.

Sabrina, who has amassed nearly 900,000 followers on TikTok with her advice, shared her texting tips in the video, explaining what not to do when you pick up the phone.

“Stop trying to text to take control of the situation,” she began the clip.

“I see it every fucking day.”

Sabrina explained that while she understands that many people feel anxious at the beginning of a relationship, texting them for no reason is simply “trying to control the situation.”

Sabrina continued, “Dating means there are no guarantees and it takes two willing, f**king two participants to decide, ‘Hey, I want to do this. You want to do this. Let’s go.'”

Sabrina urged people to get off their phones. (TikTok/@sabrina.zohar)

With that in mind, Sabrina noted that if you “really have something to say,” then keep writing. But if you’re just texting the other person to get their attention, it’s pointless because it’s just your fear talking.

“Part of dating with intent is interacting with the intent, texting with the intent, and all of the above,” she explained.

“If you don’t have something profound to offer the conversation or something to start the conversation with that makes sense, then please stop using texting as a means of control.”

Sabrina warns that if you text someone for no reason, it can easily “blow up in your face.”

People have since started commenting on the video, thanking Sabrina for her words of wisdom.

“I really appreciate every single post you make. I’m taking you to therapy and going deep!” one TikToker exclaimed.

Another said: “I love this message! Also…dating doesn’t mean constant access. You don’t have to interact every day.”

A third added: “You’ve helped me so much with my anxiety, I really appreciate your videos and love your podcast.”

Sabrina shares lots of other tips on her TikTok page, so if you need dating advice, you know where to look!